Have you ever felt as though you struggle to achieve your goals? Perhaps you get distracted easily, or maybe you find it hard to even know where to start when trying to reach your goals in life? If this is the case, self hypnosis may be able to help you.
In this article, I will explain how self-hypnosis can be a tool you can use to reach your goals. Before we start this, let’s first take a look at the reasons you may not be achieving your goals. We can all struggle with this from time to time. However, this is why it is good to first identify what it is that is holding you back from your goals and dreams.
3 Reasons Why You May Not Be Achieving Your Goals Yet
Many people may find it hard to reach their goals, for a lot of reasons. Some people find their goals hard to reach, as they are unsure of what steps to take to achieve their goals, or are not able to stay focused enough to reach them.
Often, when you find yourself giving up on a goal, it could be because you have not achieved that goal straight away and felt defeated. We, as humans, tend to have a fear of failing, which leads us to feel like there is no point to try again and to give up. It’s always good to look at why you may not be achieving your goals, so that you can try and change your way of thinking, and stay motivated on your dreams (something that self-hypnosis can help you with).
Let’s look at a few more reasons why you may not be achieving your Life goals.
1. You Only Focus On Achieving One Goal At A Time
When you focus on one main goal, you are limiting yourself to other possibilities and goals you could also reach.
Plus, when we focus on one goal alone, every other goal we may be wanting to pursue goes to the back of the queue.
What you have to remember is, to reach your end goal, you need smaller, mini goals or steps to achieve your end result. Try not to focus on one end goal.
Instead, look at developing the skills you need to achieve these goals (for example, changing your diet for weight loss). This will also help you to try and reach multiple goals at one time.
2. You Get Stuck On The End Result With Your Goals
If you are looking at your end result, and not the steps you need to take to achieve them, it is likely you may not achieve your goals most of the time. You need to look at how you are going to achieve your goals first and take those steps to get closer to them.
Many people often feel discouraged when they do not reach their end result straight away – but this is very unlikely, especially if there are mini goals you need to achieve first. Having a list of your smaller steps will also keep you more motivated and focused on reaching your end result.
Further Reading: How To Hypnotize Yourself (Step By Step Guide)
3. You Feel Discouraged
As mentioned earlier, it is easy to develop a fear of failing. You may find that as soon as you fail at something, or struggle to achieve an end goal, you give up.
If you can look at failing as something that is needed to happen to help us improve and come back stronger, you will find it easier to focus on your goals. When you face your first hurdle, and fail, you will know why you failed and be able to try again with a different mindset. If you feel discouraged, you are more likely to not try again and therefore will not reach your goals.
Does Self Hypnosis Work?
You may be asking: does self-hypnosis work? Well, for many it does and is often used to help people for a lot of different reasons or outcomes.
Self-hypnotherapy is where you enter a state of deep relaxation, where your brain activity reduces and you are induced in a sense of calm. Being in this state of mind helps you to be open to high suggestibility.
The Hypnosis therapist will then give you suggestions which can help change your limiting beliefs and make positive changes that can help you achieve your goals. This can also help you focus on what you struggle with and what may be stopping you, and can show you how to look differently and change your thought process on these underlying issues.
Benefits Of Self Hypnosis
Self Hypnosis techniques can be used to help you achieve your Life goals because it teaches you to stay motivated and to focus on these goals. Through self-hypnosis, you will be entering the right mindset to reach your goals and aim for success, you should feel more motivated and positive too.
Self Hypnotherapy helps to change your outlook on limited beliefs, for example, it can help with changing the way you think into being more positive and this should help you to stay focused and eager to succeed with your goals. Self-hypnosis, when used on top of what you are already doing to reach your goals, should help greatly. It should help speed things up for you, as it helps you to stay motivated and reinforces the positive mind changes and outlooks that you have on your goals.
The hypnotherapy can keep you on the right track if you take part in it along with all of the other steps you are taking to reach your goals. As self-hypnosis gets your subconscious involved, this can connect with your conscious goals, which is why this is great for keeping you on the road to success.
Self-hypnotherapy can give you the right attitude that you need to achieve your goals, thus helping you to reach them.
Start Achieving Your Goals Today With Self Hypnosis
If you need that extra push to start reaching your goals and may have trouble staying motivated, or positive, Self Hypnosis may be the perfect tool for you. Self-hypnotherapy can be a great way to keeping you focused and motivated on your goals and can help you to reach them.
If this sounds like something you want to try, why not visit our partner site, ehypnosis, with a great new offer every day, you can pick a program which is perfect for you, and start reaching your goals today.
Many people feel as if they’re adrift in the world. They work hard, but they don’t seem to get anywhere worthwhile.
A key reason that they feel this way is that they haven’t spent enough time thinking about what they want from life, and haven’t set themselves formal goals. After all, would you set out on a major journey with no real idea of your destination? Probably not!
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How to Set a Goal
First consider what you want to achieve, and then commit to it. Set SMART (specific, measureable, attainable, relevant and time-bound) goals that motivate you and write them down to make them feel tangible. Then plan the steps you must take to realize your goal, and cross off each one as you work through them.
Goal setting is a powerful process for thinking about your ideal future, and for motivating yourself to turn your vision of this future into reality.
The process of setting goals helps you choose where you want to go in life. By knowing precisely what you want to achieve, you know where you have to concentrate your efforts. You’ll also quickly spot the distractions that can, so easily, lead you astray.
Why Set Goals?
Top-level athletes, successful businesspeople and achievers in all fields all set goals. Setting goals gives you long-term vision and short-term motivation . It focuses your acquisition of knowledge, and helps you to organize your time and your resources so that you can make the most of your life.
By setting sharp, clearly defined goals, you can measure and take pride in the achievement of those goals, and you’ll see forward progress in what might previously have seemed a long pointless grind. You will also raise your self-confidence , as you recognize your own ability and competence in achieving the goals that you’ve set.
Starting to Set Personal Goals
You set your goals on a number of levels:
First you create your “big picture” of what you want to do with your life (or over, say, the next 10 years), and identify the large-scale goals that you want to achieve.
Then, you break these down into the smaller and smaller targets that you must hit to reach your lifetime goals.
Finally, once you have your plan, you start working on it to achieve these goals.
This is why we start the process of setting goals by looking at your lifetime goals. Then, we work down to the things that you can do in, say, the next five years, then next year, next month, next week, and today, to start moving towards them.
Step 1: Setting Lifetime Goals
The first step in setting personal goals is to consider what you want to achieve in your lifetime (or at least, by a significant and distant age in the future). Setting lifetime goals gives you the overall perspective that shapes all other aspects of your decision making.
To give a broad, balanced coverage of all important areas in your life, try to set goals in some of the following categories (or in other categories of your own, where these are important to you):
Career – What level do you want to reach in your career, or what do you want to achieve?
Financial – How much do you want to earn, by what stage? How is this related to your career goals?
Education – Is there any knowledge you want to acquire in particular? What information and skills will you need to have in order to achieve other goals?
Family – Do you want to be a parent? If so, how are you going to be a good parent? How do you want to be seen by a partner or by members of your extended family?
Artistic – Do you want to achieve any artistic goals?
Attitude – Is any part of your mindset holding you back? Is there any part of the way that you behave that upsets you? (If so, set a goal to improve your behavior or find a solution to the problem.)
Physical – Are there any athletic goals that you want to achieve, or do you want good health deep into old age? What steps are you going to take to achieve this?
Pleasure – How do you want to enjoy yourself? (You should ensure that some of your life is for you!)
Public Service – Do you want to make the world a better place? If so, how?
Spend some time brainstorming these things, and then select one or more goals in each category that best reflect what you want to do. Then consider trimming again so that you have a small number of really significant goals that you can focus on.
As you do this, make sure that the goals that you have set are ones that you genuinely want to achieve, not ones that your parents, family, or employers might want. (If you have a partner, you probably want to consider what he or she wants – however, make sure that you also remain true to yourself!)
Tip:
You may also want to read our article on Personal Mission Statements . Crafting a personal mission statement can help bring your most important goals into sharp focus.
Step 2: Setting Smaller Goals
Once you have set your lifetime goals, set a five-year plan of smaller goals that you need to complete if you are to reach your lifetime plan.
Then create a one-year plan, six-month plan, and a one-month plan of progressively smaller goals that you should reach to achieve your lifetime goals. Each of these should be based on the previous plan.
Then create a daily To-Do List of things that you should do today to work towards your lifetime goals.
At an early stage, your smaller goals might be to read books and gather information on the achievement of your higher level goals. This will help you to improve the quality and realism of your goal setting.
Finally, review your plans, and make sure that they fit the way in which you want to live your life.
Tip:
If you feel that you’re not paying enough attention to certain areas of your life, you’ll find our articles on The Wheel of Life and the Life/Career Rainbow useful.
Staying on Course
Once you’ve decided on your first set of goals, keep the process going by reviewing and updating your To-Do List on a daily basis.
Periodically review the longer term plans, and modify them to reflect your changing priorities and experience. (A good way of doing this is to schedule regular, repeating reviews using a computer-based diary.)
SMART Goals
A useful way of making goals more powerful is to use the SMART mnemonic. While there are plenty of variants (some of which we’ve included in parenthesis), SMART usually stands for:
S – Specific (or Significant).
M – Measurable (or Meaningful).
A – Attainable (or Action-Oriented).
R – Relevant (or Rewarding).
T – Time-bound (or Trackable).
For example, instead of having “to sail around the world” as a goal, it’s more powerful to use the SMART goal “To have completed my trip around the world by December 31, 2027.” Obviously, this will only be attainable if a lot of preparation has been completed beforehand!
Further Tips for Setting Your Goals
The following broad guidelines will help you to set effective, achievable goals:
State each goal as a positive statement – Express your goals positively – “Execute this technique well” is a much better goal than “Don’t make this stupid mistake.”
Be precise – Set precise goals, putting in dates, times and amounts so that you can measure achievement. If you do this, you’ll know exactly when you have achieved the goal, and can take complete satisfaction from having achieved it.
Set priorities – When you have several goals, give each a priority. This helps you to avoid feeling overwhelmed by having too many goals, and helps to direct your attention to the most important ones.
Write goals down – This crystallizes them and gives them more force.
Keep operational goals small – Keep the low-level goals that you’re working towards small and achievable. If a goal is too large, then it can seem that you are not making progress towards it. Keeping goals small and incremental gives more opportunities for reward.
Set performance goals, not outcome goals – You should take care to set goals over which you have as much control as possible. It can be quite dispiriting to fail to achieve a personal goal for reasons beyond your control!
In business, these reasons could be bad business environments or unexpected effects of government policy. In sport, they could include poor judging, bad weather, injury, or just plain bad luck.
If you base your goals on personal performance, then you can keep control over the achievement of your goals, and draw satisfaction from them.
Set realistic goals – It’s important to set goals that you can achieve. All sorts of people (for example, employers, parents, media, or society) can set unrealistic goals for you. They will often do this in ignorance of your own desires and ambitions.
It’s also possible to set goals that are too difficult because you might not appreciate either the obstacles in the way, or understand quite how much skill you need to develop to achieve a particular level of performance.
Achieving Goals
When you’ve achieved a goal, take the time to enjoy the satisfaction of having done so. Absorb the implications of the goal achievement, and observe the progress that you’ve made towards other goals.
If the goal was a significant one, reward yourself appropriately. All of this helps you build the self-confidence you deserve.
With the experience of having achieved this goal, review the rest of your goal plans:
If you achieved the goal too easily, make your next goal harder.
If the goal took a dispiriting length of time to achieve, make the next goal a little easier.
If you learned something that would lead you to change other goals, do so.
If you noticed a deficit in your skills despite achieving the goal, decide whether to set goals to fix this.
Tip 1:
Our article, Golden Rules of Goal Setting , will show you how to set yourself up for success when it comes to your goals. If you’re still having trouble, you might also want to try Backward Goal Setting .
Tip 2:
It’s important to remember that failing to meet goals does not matter much, just as long as you learn from the experience.
Feed lessons you have learned back into the process of setting your next goals. Remember too that your goals will change as time goes on. Adjust them regularly to reflect growth in your knowledge and experience, and if goals do not hold any attraction any longer, consider letting them go.
Example Personal Goals
For her New Year’s Resolution, Susan has decided to think about what she really wants to do with her life.
Her lifetime goals are as follows:
Career – “To be managing editor of the magazine that I work for.”
Artistic – “To keep working on my illustration skills. Ultimately I want to have my own show in our downtown gallery.”
Physical – “To run a marathon.”
Now that Susan has listed her lifetime goals, she then breaks down each one into smaller, more manageable goals.
Let’s take a closer look at how she might break down her lifetime career goal – becoming managing editor of her magazine:
Five-year goal: “Become deputy editor.”
One-year goal: “Volunteer for projects that the current Managing Editor is heading up.”
Six-month goal: “Go back to school and finish my journalism degree.”
One-month goal: “Talk to the current managing editor to determine what skills are needed to do the job.”
One-week goal: “Book the meeting with the Managing Editor.”
As you can see from this example, breaking big goals down into smaller, more manageable goals makes it far easier to see how the goal will get accomplished.
Key Points
Goal setting is an important method for:
Deciding what you want to achieve in your life.
Separating what’s important from what’s irrelevant, or a distraction.
Motivating yourself.
Building your self-confidence, based on successful achievement of goals.
Set your lifetime goals first. Then, set a five-year plan of smaller goals that you need to complete if you are to reach your lifetime plan. Keep the process going by regularly reviewing and updating your goals. And remember to take time to enjoy the satisfaction of achieving your goals when you do so.
If you don’t already set goals, do so, starting now. As you make this technique part of your life, you’ll find your career accelerating, and you’ll wonder how you did without it!
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Hypnosis can be used to train the brain in the mental habits associated with success.
“I owe my success to having listened respectfully to the very best advice, and then going away and doing the exact opposite.”
– G. K. Chesterton
I was click baited yesterday into reading a story about a man, Andrew Michael, who stole £30,000 from his mother “to make millions”.1 Well, with a headline like that, why wouldn’t you click through?
Michael had spent £30,000 on his mother’s credit card when he was 17 to start a business. He eventually sold this business for £61.5m (and by then had presumably remunerated his good old mom handsomely). Now I’m not suggesting you should steal money or max out other people’s credit cards to kickstart success. Not at all.
But Michael’s daring (with his mum’s money!), sheer belief in his startup puts me in mind of that famous quote often attributed to Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:
“Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”
Certainly, and not surprisingly, doing rather than just dreaming increases your chances of achieving goals. This sounds so basic it might seem not worth mentioning, but you might be surprised how much success is wasted in the world through want of a little boldness to just begin it.
But how do you find that boldness?
Find motivation through the magnetism of your dreams
Looking back on how he expanded his first business, Fasthosts, the now wildly successful Mr Michael said “I was laser focused” and “nothing else mattered.” You’d hope so, if he was willing to risk so much of his mother’s money! But this tells us something really interesting about successful endeavours.
When you are on the path to success you feel pulled inexorably towards it, almost as if a giant magnet were pulling you towards your future success. This is the polar opposite of trying to force yourself to feel motivated enough to take the steps towards creating success.
Imagine for a moment feeling as though you have no choice but to do everything possible to attain your goals. Fears, doubts, negative ‘well wishes’, none of that matters – your impulse to succeed will pull you through all that.
When we use hypnosis to help people become successful, in whatever way they frame success, we help create goal magnetism in their mind. Fear and self-doubt falls away as the individual becomes singularly focused on serving their goal.
And this idea of serving the goal is vital.
Success is a byproduct, not a destination
When Andrew Michael sold his first business at the age of 26, banking all those millions, he had expected to feel happy. But strangely, he said, he felt deflated as all that cash was deposited into his account.1 Why?
Well, perhaps because he’d assumed that the destination was more important than the journey. When he realized was that it was the striving and the challenge that lit his fuse, not simply the fulfilment of it, he began a new venture (which would become even more successful than the first!).
Michael’s reaction to banking millions at 26 tells us something important: Lack of material problems should never be confused with happiness (although it can help us get there).
Why be disappointed by success?
It seems that Mr Michael wasn’t aiming to get rich, although that was a pleasant ripple effect. He was simply trying to create a successful business. He likes to make things work. He’s motivated by making things work.
And what happens when you’ve made things work? There is little left to make work – and therefore little motivation. This is really important to remember.
The other important lesson we can draw from Michael’s story, I think, is that he seemed to me to be serving his goals, striving to make them work, but not trying to be successful for the sake of ‘being a success’.
If we focus on the goal, then the trappings of success, whether recognition from others, money, status, or simply a sense of achievement, will take care of themselves. But if we focus instead on the trappings themselves, the ‘treasures’ of success, then the goal itself may be neglected. It’s almost as though we have to forget about the ‘candy’ when striving to achieve what might be possible for us.
When training to do a marathon, say, losing weight may not be the primary motivation – but you could call it a signal of success. We don’t have to pursue success signals when pursuing goals – we can let them take care of themselves.
Trying to become successful isn’t the same as serving your goal, and splitting your focus between the two may take you further away from both.
Focus on your specific goals rather than ‘being a success’.
And when you think about becoming successful, whatever that may mean to you (and it may have nothing to do with money), I want you to ask yourself one key question.
To what extent will your success sustainably meet your primal emotional needs?
Having, say, an absence of material worries, or even a short-lived sense of satisfaction in what you have achieved, shouldn’t be confused with sustainable happiness, especially if you are the kind of person who strives to achieve your goals. The shine of having achieved what you set out to do may wear off fast as you ‘habituate’ to success.
You and I have an array of emotional needs which include a strong need for meaning and purpose, intimacy, attention, connection to a wider community, and challenge and creativity. Ask yourself – to what extent would achieving your success either sustainably meet your needs or enable you to more easily meet them (perhaps because you’ll free up time and money)?
If you unconsciously assume that all your emotional needs will suddenly and permanently be met through, say, becoming rich, you’re setting yourself up for disillusionment.
Yes, you should strive to meet your goals – but you should also be aware of your needs and work to meet them in sustainable ways without unconsciously assuming the completion of one goal will meet all your needs for all time. You might even choose to make sure you are meeting your needs in areas separate from your success goals so you can fully focus on what you want to achieve.
And all this begs another question. What exactly should you be striving for?
The ‘anyone can do anything’ fallacy
You have certain potentials within you which may be currently blocked through fears, self-doubt, or inertia. I have certain potentials too – so does everyone. But our potentials may differ because of what we are naturally suited to. That diversity of potential is a good thing. But it also means none of us has the potential to do anything and everything.
Just believing that I am going to become a quantum physicist, or the world’s greatest electrical engineer, isn’t going to suddenly make me hugely interested or talented in these fields.
We need to find our own path towards goal fulfilment, which might not be identical, or even similar, to anyone else’s path towards – or even definition of – success.
Successfully copying someone else may mean failing yourself. The first step towards a more authentic kind of success is to come to really know yourself. What am I like? What do I like? And what am I naturally suited to?
Looking at ourselves as calmly and objectively as possible and seeing what we are like, not what we ‘should’ be like, is often the first step to success. Of course, this doesn’t mean we can’t learn all kinds of new skills.
So how do we use the immense power of hypnosis to help feel more magnetized towards our goals? The answer may surprise, even shock you.
3 steps to using hypnosis for success
Over the years I’ve trained many people in hypnosis and ways to apply positive and solution-focused techniques. And I’ve discovered three universal truths when it comes to helping people towards their success.
In order to help someone succeed, we need to:
Help them discover what areas they want to become successful in. What does ‘success’ mean to them? To what extent will it meet their emotional needs?
Help clear away any blocks to success, whether it be anxiety, low self-belief, or paralyzing procrastination or perfectionism (or often all three at once), which diminishes and prevents enjoyment of any successes.
Envisage not only successful outcomes but also, very strongly, the steps along the road towards success.
This last one often surprises people. People may assume that success hypnosis is all about sitting down and hypnotically experiencing future success. But such an approach would conflict with science and common sense.
Don’t chase success away
Why would fantasizing about your wonderful future success actually cause success to flee from you like a rabbit caught in the headlights?
Research has shown that strongly imagining success without envisaging yourself actually doing what’s needed to get to that success may make you much less likely to achieve your dreams.2
This point is really worth considering.
The researchers assessed expectations and fantasies among various cohorts pursuing different goals, from trying to get a new partner or job to passing an academic test. They then assessed effort and performance among those individuals weeks to months later.
They found that those who spent the most time positively fantasizing about their desired result did worse. For example, among those looking for a job, participants who spent most time fantasizing about getting a great job actually had lower paid and less fulfilled jobs two years later than those who didn’t fantasize so much!
The problem with positive fantasies is that they give us the feelings of success in the present time – and yes, that might feel like a good thing at first. But they don’t help us anticipate the work and setbacks we may need to overcome. They can give us a false sense of already having reached our goal! And if you’re already there, why bother with the actual journey?
According to the researchers, “[p]ositive expectations (judging a desired future as likely) predicted high effort and successful performance, but the reverse was true for positive fantasies.”
So the secret, it seems, to harder work and a greater likelihood of success is to have positive expectations but without indulging too many fantasies of future success.
So how do we use hypnosis to get people to take their path to success?
Seeing the journey makes it compelling
When we help people hypnotically envisage their goals, we do so by helping them envisage not just the destination but the journey towards success. As you become magnetized towards your goal you need more than simply ‘passion’ or a one-off hit of excitement to get there. Why? Because excitement, like a sugar high, is short lived unless it is renewed often.
Yes, you need to be excited by your goals. But you also need to honour them in ways that don’t require you to be constantly whipped up in a frenzy of passion. You may not be passionate about cleaning your teeth every day, but you still do it.
Other research has found that visualizing yourself from a third-person position carrying out desired success-oriented behaviours makes you much more likely to carry out those behaviours for real.3
Mind you, often there is a special moment that plants the seed of success so deep that it just has to grow. Self-imposed or external blocks? You’ll surmount them. Negativity from others? You’ll listen for any truth, but if it’s just negativity it will be as water off a success-seeking duck’s back! Sometimes it takes just one person to believe in you to create a turning point.
I had a turning point moment like that many years ago.
Why limit yourself?
Why indeed. These words float to me often from back through the decades. They came from the lips of an old client. A man in his late eighties whom I’d helped to hypnotically control his blood pressure and sleep better. He’d shown a great deal of interest in my fledgling therapy practice.
I asked him what he meant. He repeated.
“Why limit yourself! Think big, Mark! Why only see eight people a week when you can teach a hundred, a thousand others to do what you do. Those thousand others might see eight troubled souls a week. You would then be helping, indirectly, not just eight people a week but eight thousand!”
I’ll never forget his words. It was the seed that germinated into a shoot of flowering possibility and action. Twenty-five years on, my business partner and I have trained thousands face-to-face and reached millions online.
Sometimes it takes just one person to believe in you – and that one person might as well be you!
So when it comes to success, think big, and always ask: “Why limit myself?”
I’ve created a course using a workbook and hypnosis for success here: 10 Steps to a Stellar Success Mindset.
Here are 10 great affirmations to help achieve your goals.
I absolutely love affirmations. They’ve really helped me in my own life and business. Today, I’ve put together these special affirmations to help you achieve your goals.
Pick out the ones that resonate with you, use them all or use them as a base to create your own affirmations specific to you.
Before you start focusing on your mindset work to achieve your goals, it’s important to know what your goals actually are.
How and when to use affirmations to help achieve your goals
Fill your day with them. You can do all kinds of things like…
Write your affirmations out daily
Write your affirmations on separate post-it notes and place them around the house, office…
Record your affirmations onto a voice recorder (most mobiles have them these days) and play them back to yourself throughout the day
Simply run them through your mind as you’re going about your day
Stand in front of the mirror and repeat them out loud (this is incredibly powerful)
Enjoy your affirmations. The more enjoyment you can add the better as you’ll be coming at them from a really positive place, raising your vibrations and when you do this you activate the law of attraction to draw to you whatever you need to achieve your goals.
8 affirmations to help achieve your goals
Any time is a good time to use affirmations especially if you catch yourself thinking or feeling negative, just start saying your affirmations – fill your mind with positivity.
1 – I can achieve all of my goals
This is a super simple, yet incredibly powerful affirmation. You want to achieve your goals and this is exactly what this affirmation is focused on.
You can add anything you want to the “I can… ” affirmation such as I can easily attract 10 new clients this week.
I can achieve all of my goals is a fantastic general affirmation. Adding a specific goal to the end of I can… adds real focus to that specific goal.
Both of these affirmation styles work brilliantly. You can use them both side by side.
Try looking at your goals for the year and create a specific “I can…” affirmation for each goal.
2 – I’m a real goal-achiever now
So, this affirmation is affirming who you are as a person. Maybe you’ve struggled to achieve your goals in the past or stay focused on your goals.
This affirmation “I am a real goal-achiever now” says that you are the kind of person who really goes after your goals. You don’t do it sometimes or a bit half-heartedly, you go for it. That’s who YOU are.
The “I am…” affirmations are also massively powerful. In fact, they’re probably the most powerful, so I highly recommend any positive statements starting with “I am…”
Try this: Look at your goals list and ask “Who do I need to be to achieve this goal?”
Maybe you have a goal to attend networking events to put the word out about your business and get to know other business owners in your area. This idea might make you feel quite nervous and uncomfortable, so you could say “I am calm and confident talking about my business at events.” Play with this idea and see what you can come up with.
Related reading – Who do I need to be to achieve my goals?
3 – Achieving my goals is getting easier and easier
So many people have the belief that success is really hard work and whilst I do believe any goal worth achieving does take time, attention and effort, it doesn’t have to be hard (a struggle).
If you feel like you always struggle to achieve your goals, this is a really positive affirmation for you to use, it’s also not a massive jump to “Achieving my goals is easy.”
If you are struggling right now, this is a better feeling affirmation that your mind will readily allow to be the truth for you. Big jump affirmations can often cause too much resistance.
As you start to believe that achieving your goals is getting easier you can then start to add Achieving my goals is easy now, achieving my goals is so easy now.
Look at your reality now as you see it and go for better feeling thoughts and affirmations.
4 – I now set clear goals and consistently work on achieving them.
I now… is another great way to start your affirmations. You’re putting out a message to the universe and your subconscious mind saying, sure, in the past it hasn’t always been this way but this is now – NOW, this is how my life is.
Maybe in the past, you might have set vague goals and maybe you were a bit hit and miss about trying to achieve them. Not NOW. Now your goals are clear and now you consistently work on achieving your goals.
I personally love this affirmation and use it in my own life, especially with my business goals. I have definitely been guilty of setting all kinds of vague mismatched goals and haven’t then worked on achieving them consistently, so this has been a powerful affirmation to help change that unhelpful behaviour pattern.
Related video I’m not consistent belief buster
5 – I have a clear plan of action to achieve my goals
I always, always encourage you to have a clear action plan for any of your goals. Break your goal down into actionable steps that you can work on.
This affirmation will help you to stay on track and focused, it will remind you to set action steps and stick to them. You’ve got your goal, you’ve got your action plan and you have now set yourself up to achieve your goal.
Affirmations do a wonderful job to shift your beliefs and change your behaviour patterns.
I have a clear plan of action to achieve my goals, says “Yes, I have a plan” and “Yes, of course, I will achieve this goal.”
Related reading Goals without an action plan are a waste of time
6 – I prioritize my goals and take every opportunity to work on them
Prioritizing your goals is essential if you want to achieve them. This affirmation will help create a belief that you are the kind of person who does prioritize your goals.
You know they are important to you and therefore they deserve time and attention to achieve them.
An alternative to this affirmation is “I take every opportunity to work on my goals” this is a shortened version but equally as powerful.
This affirmation will help you create a mindset that has you moving closer to your goal every day.
Recommended reading – Prioritize your most important goal
I hope you’re enjoying these affirmations to help achieve your goals – If you’re on Pinterest you can find Pins for each of these affirmations on my Goal Setting Pinterest board
7 – I am fully committed to achieving my goals
In all honesty, if you feel you’re not committed to achieving a goal, I would recommend that you first question yourself “Is this goal really important to ME?”
Often when I’m going through goals with clients and there is a big commitment issue, it will turn out to be something that the person thinks other people expect from them but the goal is not very important to them.
So that aside, assuming you do really want to achieve your goal. This goal will help you to create a positive belief that will help you to really commit to your goals.
Another little note: Make sure you are not overcommitting your time as this could end up forcing you to neglect your important goals.
Recommended reading Say “No” to overcommitment – Time management tip
8 – My goals are worth achieving
If your goals are important to you then, of course, they are worth achieving. You deserve to achieve your goals. An alternative to this affirmation is “I am worthy of achieving my goals.”
I often speak with people about this issue and what I’ve come to understand is that so many of us have a belief that unless you’re working ridiculously hard, sacrificing something or putting in 90 hours a week, it’s not okay to be successful. I had a belief very similar to this for many years. I’m here to tell you it’s not true. I do believe you need to focus on your goals, have a clear action plan and put effort into achieving your goals. But it does not need to be hard. You do not need to sacrifice success in other areas of your life (such as family time) and you do not need to work around the clock to achieve your goals. Your goals are worth achieving. You are worthy of achieving your goals.
Goal Setting tips
Start with your big, Ideal Life, Ideal Business goals and then break them down into your yearly goals, them monthly goals, then weekly, daily goals.
Create a clear plan of action to achieve your goals.
Write your goals down
Do your mindset work. Start with these affirmations and try using EFT to achieve your goals.
Keep your goals clear and simple (don’t overcomplicate your goals). Also, try not to have too many goals at any one time.
Record your affirmations
These days most smartphones have a way for you to record yourself speaking. So why not record a list of your favourite affirmations and play them back to yourself throughout the day. This is powerful stuff. Keep filling your mind with positive thoughts.
Keeping your goals clear and simple (don’t overcomplicate your goals) will help. Also, try not to have too many goals at any one time.
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Affirmations board
Try creating a Pinterest board filled with affirmations that really resonate with you. You can also create a board in your home or workplace. Write out affirmations on nice coloured pieces of card and pin them on a pinboard or even print out your favourite affirmation and frame it. These regular reminders are so incredibly powerful.
I really hope these affirmations to help achieve your goals resonate with you. Give them a go, fill your mind with positive thoughts and affirmations. See what happens.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and let me know which is your favourite of the affirmations I’ve shared and if you have another that you like, share that in the comments below.
Look for a hypnotherapist who is a member of the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH) or the Society for Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis. To be a member of either of these organizations, a hypnotherapist must have a doctorate level degree in medicine, dentistry, or psychology, or a master’s degree in nursing, social work, psychology, or marital/family therapy plus a specific number of hours of approved training in hypnotherapy. In some cases, accredited, doctoral-level practitioners of alternative health care, such traditional Chinese medicine, may also be approved for membership. Of course, in addition to looking at qualifications, you should also find a hypnotherapist with whom you feel confident and comfortable in a therapeutic relationship.
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Lucid dreams are when you know that you’re dreaming while you’re asleep.
You’re aware that the events flashing through your brain aren’t really happening. But the dream feels vivid and real. You may even be able to control how the action unfolds, as if you’re directing a movie in your sleep.
Studies suggest that about half of people may have had at least one lucid dream. But they probably don’t happen often, usually only a handful of times in a year.
When Do Lucid Dreams Happen?
Lucid dreams are most common during rapid eye movement (REM) sleep, a period of very deep sleep marked by eye motion, faster breathing, and more brain activity.
You usually enter REM sleep about 90 minutes after falling asleep. It lasts about 10 minutes. As you sleep, each REM period is longer than the one before, finally lasting up to an hour.
Lucid Dreams Research
Neuroscientists don’t know exactly how and why lucid dreams happen. But they have some ideas.
For one thing, studies have found physical differences in the brains of people who do and don’t have lucid dreams. The very front part of the brain, called the prefrontal cortex — the site of high-level tasks like making decisions and recalling memories — is bigger in people who have lucid dreams. That suggests that folks who are most likely to have lucid dreams tend to be self-reflective types who chew over thoughts in their heads.
One small study in Germany tracked brain electrical activity in volunteers as they slept. Based on these measurements, the researchers say, lucid dreaming may be kind of a “between state” where you aren’t fully awake but not quite asleep, either.
Some sleep scientists believe that lucid dreams may also happen just outside of REM sleep, which many long thought was the only time when you dream.
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Benefits of Lucid Dreams
Lucid dreams might help your waking life with benefits like:
Less anxiety. The sense of control you feel during a lucid dream may stay with you and make you feel empowered. When you’re aware that you’re in a dream, you can shape the story and the ending. That might serve as therapy for people who have nightmares, teaching them how to control their dreams.
Better motor skills. Limited studies suggest that it may be possible to improve simple things like tapping your fingers more quickly by “practicing” during your lucid dream. The same part of your brain turns active whether you imagine the movements while awake or run through them during a lucid dream.
Improved problem-solving. Researchers found some evidence that lucid dreams can help people solve problems that deal with creativity (like a conflict with another person) more than with logic (such as a math problem).
More creativity. Some people taking part in lucid dream studies were able to come up with new ideas or insights, sometimes with the help of characters in their dreams.
Dangers of Lucid Dreams
Lucid dreaming may also cause problems, including:
Less sleep quality. Vivid dreams can wake you and make it hard to get back to sleep. And you might not sleep well if you’re too focused on lucid dreaming.
Confusion, delirium, and hallucinations. In people who have certain mental health disorders, lucid dreams may blur the line between what’s real and what’s imagined.
How to Have Lucid Dreams
Small studies have found that you may be able to raise your chances of dreaming lucidly. One way to do it might be to prime your mind to notice unusual details in your dream to alert yourself that it’s not real.
More research is needed to know if any method can actually trigger a lucid dream. Some things researchers have tried include:
Reality testing. This is when you pause at different times of the day to see whether you’re dreaming. You can try to do something impossible, like push your finger through your palm or inhale through a closed mouth. Or you can do something that’s usually hard to do in a dream, like read a page in a book.
Dream diary. Some studies showed that people had more lucid dreams when they kept a log of their dreams, because they were more focused on them. Other research found that these journals didn’t help on their own but might be useful when combined with other methods.
Wake-back-to-bed. You wake up after 5 hours of sleep, stay awake briefly, and then go back to bed to try to enter an REM sleep period.
Mnemonic induction of lucid dreams (MILD). You wake up after sleeping for 5 hours and tell yourself several times that the next time you dream, you will remember you’re dreaming. This uses prospective memory — the act of remembering to do something in the future — to trigger a lucid dream.
Drugs. Studies have also focused on the effects of several drugs, such as supplements and medicinal plants, on sleep and dreams. But it’s not clear how safe they are or how well they work.
Devices. Some masks and headbands that have sounds or lights might bring on a lucid state. Other devices can record and play messages used in the MILD technique while you’re asleep.
WebMD Medical Reference Reviewed by Minesh Khatri, MD on June 27, 2020
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Hypnosis — or hypnotherapy — uses guided relaxation, intense concentration, and focused attention to achieve a heightened state of awareness that is sometimes called a trance. The person’s attention is so focused while in this state that anything going on around the person is temporarily blocked out or ignored. In this naturally occurring state, a person may focus his or her attention — with the help of a trained therapist — on specific thoughts or tasks.
How Does Hypnosis Work?
Hypnosis is usually considered an aid to psychotherapy (counseling or therapy), because the hypnotic state allows people to explore painful thoughts, feelings, and memories they might have hidden from their conscious minds. In addition, hypnosis enables people to perceive some things differently, such as blocking an awareness of pain.
Hypnosis can be used in two ways, as suggestion therapy or for patient analysis.
Suggestion therapy: The hypnotic state makes the person better able to respond to suggestions. Therefore, hypnotherapy can help some people change certain behaviors, such as stopping smoking or nail biting. It can also help people change perceptions and sensations, and is particularly useful in treating pain.
Analysis: This approach uses the relaxed state to explore a possible psychological root cause of a disorder or symptom, such as a traumatic past event that a person has hidden in his or her unconscious memory. Once the trauma is revealed, it can be addressed in psychotherapy.
What Are the Benefits of Hypnosis?
The hypnotic state allows a person to be more open to discussion and suggestion. It can improve the success of other treatments for many conditions, including:
Hypnosis also might be used to help with pain control and to overcome habits, such as smoking or overeating. It also might be helpful for people whose symptoms are severe or who need crisis management.
What Are the Drawbacks of Hypnosis?
Hypnosis might not be appropriate for a person who has psychotic symptoms, such as hallucinations and delusions, or for someone who is using drugs or alcohol. It should be used for pain control only after a doctor has evaluated the person for any physical disorder that might require medical or surgical treatment. Hypnosis also may be a less effective form of therapy than other more traditional treatments, such as medication, for psychiatric disorders.
Some therapists use hypnosis to recover possibly repressed memories they believe are linked to the person’s mental disorder. However, the quality and reliability of information recalled by the patient under hypnosis is not always reliable. Additionally, hypnosis can pose a risk of creating false memories — usually as a result of unintended suggestions or the asking of leading questions by the therapist. For these reasons, hypnosis is no longer considered a common or mainstream part of most forms of psychotherapy. Also, the use of hypnosis for certain mental disorders in which patients may be highly susceptible to suggestion, such as dissociative disorders, remains especially controversial.
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Is Hypnosis Dangerous?
Hypnosis is not a dangerous procedure. It is not mind control or brainwashing. A therapist cannot make a person do something embarrassing or that the person doesn’t want to do. The greatest risk, as discussed above, is that false memories can potentially be created and that it may be less effective than pursuing other, more established and traditional psychiatric treatments.
Who Performs Hypnosis?
Hypnosis is performed by a licensed or certified mental health professional who is specially trained in this technique.
WebMD Medical Reference Reviewed by Smitha Bhandari, MD on November 15, 2018
1. You Only Focus On Achieving One Goal At A Time
1. You Only Focus On Achieving One Goal At A Time
Hypnosis can be used to train the brain in the mental habits associated with success.
